Finding Sarah

Insisting on driving herself to Oprah’s home in Santa Barbara, Sarah set out for the finale with a new found confidence. Her journey had come full circle. Sitting in Oprah’s home, she shared how she finally felt as if she had control in her life.   As if talking to an old friend, Oprah asked her why she chose to do the physical challenge to Yellowknife. Sarah told her that she had hoped to get fit mind, body and soul. With pushing for the challenge she hoped she could get her weight back in line…something that like her life had become out of control. Looking back she realized that it was a bit of punishment for herself. No longer feeling the need to prove herself, Sarah was comfortable with her knowing her own limits.

“I thought…oh, you’re where I was when I was 22,” Oprah told Sarah when reflecting back on the interview they had done after the scandal. “I know that all mistakes are the same. All pain is the same, but it comes in different forms to different people.” Once caught in “the disease to please”, Oprah fully understood Sarah’s lack of love she had for herself. Recounting a memory of a bad relationship at 22, Oprah let Sarah (and all of us) in on an important “a-ha moment” she had. Catching a glimpse of herself in a mirror during a really hard time, she realized she had become the woman she said she’d never be. That is when it changed for her. Now 51, Sarah was struggling to make her own change. It makes no difference how old you are…it is never too late to elevate your life. “All you have to do is keep an open heart. You know the universe rises up to meet you just where you are,” Oprah reminded her. She even “guarandamnted” it for her!

With an peaceful visit with Oprah behind her, Sarah was hit with another great surprise. Her older sister, Jane, who she rarely sees was there to see her. As a sister I know that there is no better gift than time with your sister. I can only imagine that it was a non-stop gab fest. For Jane it was hard…she had been worried about her sister since the scandal. Too horrifying to watch someone you love falling apart. The two sisters discussed how their mother’s abandoning them, shifted their souls. After their mother left, Jane went to Australia and Sarah was alone. She recalled, “The night you left, I think then I put up a wall and I said I will never, ever open my heart again….I lost the only two people who kept me happy.” Jane was incredibly proud of her sister.

Feeling empowered and loved, Sarah headed off to her final meeting with Dr. Phil. It is crazy to think of how far Sarah has come in only a few hard weeks. Still embarrassed by the scandal, Dr. Phil reminded her that other than crawling under a rock…she just had to face it. As long as she knows who she is and knows her moral compass, she can stand on her own two feet, regardless of what others say. [read more…]

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