The difference between a writer and a blogger? The jump. I’ve been a writer since forever. Born with words in my blood. I realized this as I pulled out an old dusty box full of heartbreaking teenage poetry and old college essays and short stories. While the twists and turns have shaped my life and who I am today, the voice of my soul is still there, waiting for pen and paper…waiting for me to show up for the conversation…so we can speak and spill words out onto paper. The writer is me is content with the spilling of ink ritual and the exhale that comes with it…it doesn’t have to be published or read…it just needs to be spilled out of my soul..but the blogger in me needs more…that part of me needs to jump. Once I heard a famous writer, actor and director that I simply love go down the road of “oh, I hate bloggers…” As soon as the words were spoken, my heart closed and it became a Charlie Brown moment when all I could hear was the “mwa mwa mwa” even though I knew he was still speaking. How could he hate bloggers? I mean, we all have the longing to write…doesn’t he see the connection? The sameness? This desire to speak without speaking…to feel the flow of the favorite pen on the silken paper….and the exhale as the words escape out of your mind and into the world…? But then…I realized that there is a difference. There is a small shift in the world between my writer self and my blogger self. It’s the jump. The movement to put my words – my soulful speaking moments – out into the world with one click of the “publish now” button. The jump. Showing the world who you are…living out loud…taking a leap with your crazy authentic self and hoping that whoever hears you totally understands that its not always easy putting yourself out there…and while you jump to become a blogger with every moment you share, you are forever and always will be born a writer. Where ever lies your passion…whatever speaks to your soul and your spirit…move towards it…and then, when you are ready, make that JUMP into your passion and towards living your best life…and embracing and empowering your authentic self. Once you do, you will be jumping into more love and life and joy than you can possibly imagine. *exhale* that felt good to say….
Sometimes it feels like we are trapped in a society of voices…sometimes very LOUD voices. We find ourselves struggling to have our opinions heard and to grasp the coveted final word. Afraid that we won’t matter or will be overlooked, having the last word has become an important and strategic move in arguments, discussions and in our own lives. In fact, many people plan their counter-arguments while others are still forming their words. Without taking the time to stop and listen, we craft our rebuttals on a few words and the assumptions that follow. Their voices are background noise to our own thoughts. It is almost as if we are so afraid we don’t matter unless we have been heard or unless we get to put in our own two cents. The truth is, since everyone is focusing on what we want to say instead of on what is being said, our words don’t really matter. The topic becomes irrelevant and winning becomes the goal. But does the last word really win? Or are we all losers for missing out on a real conversation?
Compounding the issue, silence in conversation and in the world has become uncomfortable. Instead of evoking a feeling of peace, many have difficulties silencing their minds. With the lack of quiet in their lives, the empty moments feel foreign and uneasy. So, everyone talks and no one listens. The template has been laid out for us all on nightly news stations and reality shows. As a society, we have lost the art of communication and are engulfed in the battle of being heard. Sadly that goes against what our society needs in order to thrive…we need rich conversations filled with thoughtful listening.
It is time that we all get quiet and create some magical and inspiring conversations. By failing to listen, we lose the lessons that the world is whispering to us. If we are constantly talking over each other, not only can we not hear those speaking to us…often, we can’t even hear our own inner voices. Those important voices that guide us in our journey and often keep us safe and show us the way to go when we need a little help.
Be patient with the words. How can people value our words if we don’t value them ourselves? We should put thought behind each and every word we say as well as each and every word we hear. Because if we aren’t actively listening in the conversation, the words don’t really matter. They simply fall to the floor…and we miss them. So as we go to respond, take a deep breath and give the gift of our presence. With a world of distractions, it can be hard to not feel pulled. But out of respect for the words, put the texts and ease-dropping on hold for a few minutes and focus. In those moments, we find ourselves engaging in the most riveting, magical conversations. That is when change and growth happens.
Often, when we notice the words, we can see the magic. The magic in life is in the little things said and shared. The stories, the excitement, the experiences. By missing the words, we miss the opportunity to see the beauty. Today, let’s find the beauty again in our lives by taking a lesson from those who are hard of hearing. In conversation, they stay focused on you and on each and every word. They think about what you are trying to communicate and then reply. Everything slows down and their words are picked carefully. If only we all had that same focus, imagine how great we would feel. We would feel heard. We would know that our words mattered. It would be magical. So…get quiet and create your own magic starting today!
It’s strange how the world works sometimes. For the creative mind, sometimes the darkness is where the work comes from. Music will tell of heartbreak. Movies will take you through troubled journeys. Life…it does the same thing. Dodging each and every one of us from light to dark and back to light again. But that’s the key point to remember…back to light again. Things get better. Here’s a little tip on what makes the sun in your life come out a little faster. Look for the extraordinary…because when you find it, it’s magical.
When the world slowed down and I first moved to Florida from California, life was heightened. The noise and fast pace was substituted by a quieter, closer awareness to the world around me. Looking up and out into the world. Noticing people holding hands, children’s voices, trees swaying in the wind, the sound of laughter, the magic of smiles…everything opened up and came into clear focus. Life is extraordinary.
Don’t wait to look up from where you are and see the world around you. Channel your inner photographer to capture those amazing magical moments and then, soak them into your life and fill up your heart because it’s in those moments that you realize…life is amazing.
Each day I wake to the bright sunshine of Florida pouring into my bedroom window…whispering for me to get up and enjoy the day. My ritual is the same each morning. A single mom to two fur kids…I pet them lovingly…both fast asleep under their own blankets and whisper, “Good morning girls.” I proceed to get ready for our morning walk and by the time I slip my feet into my black flip flops, the girls are out doing their morning yoga poses (always downward dog), rolling on the floor and exercising their happy tails. When we get back from the walk, they jockey for the best place in the sun or the best cozy place under the desk to occupy. They are happy…almost all of the time. Their energy sings happy and their happy tails tell the story and each morning, I try to remember that even people have happy tail energy. We just sometimes forget to wag it. Show the world…life is good! Remember today to unleash your hidden power and wag your OWN happy tail!